Just to update this it was the starter motor heatshield causing all the problems.
I drove to Wayne at Chipwizards,he spent hours and hours trying to find it even tough I only paid for one hour as advised,
He found the starter motor heatshield short circuits,he measured the current and showed me for 20ms the alternator is putting out 700 amps (when it should be no more than 100),the time is so short that it doesn't pop any fuses,he then tried to only unplug the starter motor wiring after starting the car and it wasn't cutting out anymore.
Went for a drive with that removed and zero cutting out,so it must have been positioned at the perfect distance for it to only short circuit at higher revs,what are the fuxxing chances lol.